A winning mindset doesn’t just magically appear in anyone. People with a winner’s mindset (winners) work at developing their mindset every day of their life.
Developing a winner’s mindset is something winners do on a daily basis. No one is just born with it. This means anyone (including you) can develop a winner’s mindset if you give it the thought, knowledge and effort it needs to grow and flourish.
The following are 7 very important secrets to developing a winner’s mindset. Anyone can (and should) incorporate these into their thought patterns and work to keep them in the forefront of their mind at all times.
|1.||Who Is In Your Mirror?|
|2.||Gold In, Gold Out|
|3.||Birds Of A Feather|
|4.||Motivated Through Learning Experiences (Regular People Refer To Them As Mistakes)|
|5.||Goals & Dreams|
|6.||Set Up Your Subconscious|
|7.||The Size Of The Fight In The Dog|
Who Is In Your Mirror?
Who do you see when you look in the mirror? A winner? A loser? Someone in between the two?
The not so obvious question that goes along with this is, “What is your definition of a winner, a loser and someone in between the two?”
Fame? Fortune? Some other materialistic unit of measurement? My definition of a winner is different. My definition includes those who add value to the lives of others. Those who add value to the world we live in. Those who do things to help others because they want to.
This could be the place we need to begin. In my opinion, the media, Interwebs and others have done an absolutely horrible job of painting a very distorted and perverted view of what our definition of a winner should be.
Madonna said she “wanted to blow up the White House.” Then when confronted with it, she said those words were taken out of context. Really? I re-read them several times. They seem pretty clear to me. Hardly the statement of a winner in my opinion. Madonna is a loser. And yet, the media tries to tell us otherwise.
Roger Goodell, Commissioner of the NFL has repeatedly allowed losers to continue taking the limelight, posing as winners. Mr. Goodell and the NFL continue to turn a blind eye to very serious crimes perpetrated by their multi-millionaire players such as domestic violence, assault, etc.
Our nation’s youth look up to these losers. And yet, the media, the Interwebs and the NFL continue to portray them as winners. Why? The answer is simple. Money.
When they began allowing the honor of our Nation’s Fallen to be disrespected by way of a facade they had bastardized as their “Freedom of Speech to make a statement”, I pulled the plug on the NFL in my house. I quit watching. I quit buying and wearing NFL gear. I was done with the NFL for good. I haven’t watched a game since. Nor, will I.
Vince McMahon saw the same thing I did and understood the great opportunity that came along with it. The XFL will not allow kneelers and criminals to be a part of their organization. Football without the losers. I’m a huge fan of the XFL solely because of that. But, I’m also a huge fan of XFL because it is great football. I support the XFL 100%!
Don’t let the media define important parts of your life. The definition of a winner and the definition of a loser are very important parts of your life. It’s your life. You make the decision what your definition is. And then, strive to be better every day. Strive to be a winner every day.
Gold In, Gold Out
As a kid growing up, my mom used to say, “garbage in, garbage out.” She was 100% right. And, that still holds true today.
You get out what you put in. You know those cake decorator cones we see on TV? I think they call them piping bags. They fill them with delicious frosting and then begin squeezing the cone. It shoots a fancy line of that delicious frosting onto the cake and makes it beautiful too. Now, imagine if they filled it with garbage, raw sewage or some other gut wrenching form of waste. Would you still expect it to shoot the delicious frosting out onto the cake? Of course you wouldn’t! That cake would be ruined!
The same holds true for us as human beings. Imagine for a minute your brain is the frosting cone. Whatever you fill it with is what is going to come back out. I love rock and roll and listen to it all the time when I’m writing. I also get a ton of windshield time at work. My radio only plays music when I’m in my vehicle if someone else is in it. When I’m by myself, I am listening to podcasts, Audible books and YouTube videos. Garbage in, garbage out. Gold in, gold out.
Birds Of A Feather…
Who do you hang out with? Jim Rohn, an extremely popular motivational speaker once said we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with. Good or bad. Who are you spending your time with?
Thirty years ago, a good friend of mine, Danny, said, “Have you ever noticed when we are all standing there, drinking coffee and someone starts talking bad about someone, I disappear?” I hadn’t really noticed until he brought it to my attention. Apparently, I just hadn’t been paying close enough attention. He went on to explain that if you just continue to sit there, everyone else automatically assumes you are signing on to whatever hatred the speaker is spewing.
Leaving the room is one way to address it. The other is to shut it down. Yes, an argument is probably going to ensue. At the very least, someone is going to be mad at you for making a contrary statement. But, you know what? They will respect you. They will respect the fact you had the balls to stand up for what you believe.
It’s easy to get sucked into a negative atmosphere. Now that this is in the forefront of your mind, it will be easier for you to disassociate and distance yourself from negativity as it tries to creep into your space.
If you want to soar with eagles, don’t hang out with buzzards. They have different mindsets.
Motivated Through Learning Experiences (Regular People Refer To Them As Mistakes)
I’ve been reading Robert Kiyosaki books for twenty years. I love his work. He just has a great way of presenting his knowledge. And, he has a ton of it to present! Robert Kiyosaki definitely fits into my definition of a winner. Not because he has a networth of close to $100 million dollars. No, Mr. Kiyosaki is a winner because he isn’t a quitter and he has made his life revolve around helping others. In case you couldn’t tell, he is one of my heroes.
His Rich Dad said, “There is a bit of hidden magic in each of our mistakes.” To take this one step further. I totally agree with this but I also believe it is important to try to learn from the mistakes of others as often as possible too. Learning from someone else’s mistake before we make it tends to take a bit of the sting out of it for us.
One of the things I learned early on from reading a Robert Kiyosaki book was that it is okay to make mistakes. In fact, it is encouraged! What!? The “normal” response of most people is to get pissed off/depressed/etc when they make a mistake, right? Well, remember what we said about the media and the Interwebs earlier?
Goals & Dreams
What are your goals? What are your dreams? Do you know? Have you given thought to this? Have you given it the amount of thought and consideration you should?
Goals and dreams are extremely important. Since we were talking about XFL football a little bit ago, let’s take another look at it. When the offense is running and passing the ball, what’s the goal? There are multiple goals, right? Short term goals such as moving the ball forward. Long term goals such as getting it into the endzone. And then lofty goals such as doing so well they eventually become a multi-millionaire player with all the fame and fortune that goes with that.
What if there wasn’t an endzone? What would that goal be? Nonexistent perhaps? If that’s the case, what the hell are we all doing here? The same goes for you and me and anyone else who strives to be a winner rather than a loser.
My computer at work has a wallpaper of a $100+ million dollar yacht sitting in the beautiful crystal blue waters of the Southern Carribean with a bunch of jet skis and other water propulsion vehicles. And, there is a large group of people with big smiles on their faces. They are obviously having a great time!
All of my coworkers see this wallpaper and I’m sure just assume it’s there because it’s a scene that is inviting to the eye. No, the reason for its existence has a much deeper meaning for me. It’s a goal. I work every single day toward creating that exact lifestyle for my friends and family.
Some struggle with seeing past the status-quo. One of my best friends asked me a while back, “why do you even look at that shit? You know you can’t afford it. Stop wasting your time.” First of all, why does he care how I spend my free time?
That doesn’t compute to begin with. Second of all, Robert Kiyosaki was flat broke and living in his car at one point in his life. Can you imagine where he would be today if he would have gone through life with my friends mindset? He sure as hell wouldn’t be worth $100 million bucks today, would he!?
The good thing is it isn’t too late for my friend to change his mindset. He just has to put forth the effort to get it turned around.
Set Up Your Subconscious
Have you noticed the merch I offer here and on the Advance Dynamix Facebook page? Yes, it’s there as a revenue-add. But there is actually a bigger reason it is there too. They are all quotes (or, sayings of mine) that I feel can and will add to a positive/winner’s mindset by way of seeping into the subconscious of the wearer and the readers.
As I’m writing this, I’m listening to music (like I always do). The band Nothing More is on with their song, “Do You Really Want It?”. With all the negativity in the world today, this is a great piece of work to feed the subconscious.
When my son was a teenager, he and I went to a Nothing More concert. After the show, he struck up a conversation with the band members at the merch table. They spent an hour discussing topics for a paper he was writing for a homework assignment. What a cool group of guys. Not only are they super talented, they are good people too.
The song on before was “I’m A Little Bit Off Today” by Five Finger Death Punch. I love their music and like Jonny Hawkins, Ivan Moody is another one of the most talented singers in the heavy metal genre today. But, input that feeds a Negative Subconscious is something we must really make sure we are in tune with. And, this song is exactly that.
The Size Of The Fight In The Dog
As the saying goes, it’s not the size of the dog in the fight. It’s the size of the fight in the dog.
Just because a person “knows” what they need to do doesn’t mean they will continue to do it.
Unfortunately, this is the most common reason people fail with building their online business. I spent this entire weekend writing and publishing. Would I have rather been out on the lake. Hell yeah I would’ve! Would that have continued to grow my business? No, no it wouldn’t. I’m all about play time but I also understand the importance of working toward my goals too.
Last night, as I was banging away on the keyboard, I was sitting in the living room with the rest of the fam. They were watching American Idol. It was a win/win for me and you know how much I like win/win’s!
One of the contestants said she was from “the projects” and sang on the subway for tips to create her income. She was so excited because she had never flown on a plane before and she had never seen a hotel room like the one the producers had put her up in. She was so grateful for all of the new experiences she was having.
And then, she began talking about how her grandmother had raised her. During her upbringing, her grandmother had always told her that people “like them” couldn’t accomplish things like that. Yep, that pushed my buttons! What in the hell!? Can you imagine if that poor girl would have just accepted that and gone through life not trying to accomplish more because that is what she had been taught.
Don’t EVER let someone else tell you what you can or can’t accomplish! If you want more out of life, give it the thought it deserves, figure it out and JUST ROCK IT!