Have you ever wondered if you are a born loser? It’s not uncommon. Many people wonder this at some point in their life.
The truth is, no one is a born loser. We are what we choose to be. Even if someone repeatedly told you that you are a loser, they were wrong. It isn’t their decision. Who you are and who you become in life is 100% your decision.
In this article, we will examine how this question can come up, how we can extract Advance Dynamix power from within it and also take a look at some real-life examples of people who could have easily gone through life assuming they were just born losers but chose the opposite route instead.
What Makes Me Wonder If I’m A Born Loser?
I had a teacher in high school who told me I would never amount to anything. I’m sure glad I didn’t believe her. Looking back, I think how horrible that actually was. I’m sure I wasn’t the only person she ever said that to. I wonder if anyone else believed her. She was a dream-crusher. She very well may have destroyed some success stories back then. Shame on her. What a horrible person!
We are all motivated by the same core needs.
Abraham Maslow was a famous American Psychologist who was best known for his work in the area of human needs. Mr. Maslow created his Hierarchy of Needs in 1943 while writing a paper entitled, “A Theory of Human Motivation.”
All human beings are motivated through the same five levels contained within Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
When we examine the five levels, we see level 3 is love and belonging and level 4 is esteem. While it is completely true we are all motivated by these five levels, it is not true we are all motivated in the same manner. Unfortunately, there are negative motivators in play in addition to the positive motivators.
We all have had both positive and negative motivators in our lives. When someone close in our life such as parents, grandparents, a spouse or anyone else in a similar proximity to us repeatedly tells us something, we tend to believe it. This stems from our innate needs structured in Mr. Maslow’s pyramid.
When it is a positive influence, it’s awesome! When it’s a negative influence, it can have a dramatically negative effect on our psyche (if we let it).
Unfortunately, these close-proximity inputs of ours have a negative connotation associated with them entirely too often. Sometimes they are intentional and sometimes they aren’t. Regardless, it is imperative we are able to recognize them for what they are and understand they do not hold the power to put us in a specific box.
So, having this in mind, we now know being (and becoming) who we want to be is 100% our decision. If we feel like we are a loser, it is up to us to change our course to become the winners we want to be (and) the winners totally have the ability to be.
What Is A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?
According to Wikipedia, A self-fulfilling prophecy is the “socio-psychological phenomenon of someone “predicting” or expecting something, and this “prediction” or expectation comes true simply because one believes it will, and their resulting behaviors align to fulfill those beliefs.”
Unfortunately, self-fulfilling prophecies come in both positive and negative flavors too.
Pay attention to those around you and what they say and do. Many don’t even realize the negative impact associated with their words and actions.
I have a friend who is constantly referring to herself as ‘dumb” or “an idiot” or some other negative term. She isn’t dumb at all. She is a successful business owner and has been for many years.
I used to work with a guy who always liked to insert “I’m a rock!” into conversations. He was insinuating he had a low intelligence level.
FML (F*ck My Life) is a negative slang term that popped up in recent years and has taken on a negative life of its own. People repeat this negative trash statement all the time without giving it any real consideration. It’s a horrible statement and it accomplishes nothing. It breeds negativity.
These are all examples of negative self-fulfilling prophecies. As you begin to pay close attention to those around you, you will begin to notice these seeds of negativity in abundance. Recognize them for what they are and steer clear of them. They are detrimental to your mindset and consequently, your success.
In his landmark bestseller, Think and Grow Rich, American author Napoleon Hill wrote, “Whatever a man can conceive and believe, he can achieve.” This example is the epitome of a positive self-fulfilling prophecy. That book was written in 1937 and is still a must-read for anyone who wants more out of life. It is one of the top-ten bestselling self-help books of all time. Of all time. Whoa!
Birds Of A Feather
Wildly successful American entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker, Jim Rohn told us we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with. While I believe that is very true, I also believe it goes much deeper than that. Especially in this day and age of the Internet, we have constant input from many directions. The good news is, we get to choose our inputs for the most part. The bad news is, most people make poor decisions when it comes to choosing their inputs.
Which do you think has the potential for a more positive impact in your life? A) Watching an episode of The Walking Dead. B) Reading a chapter out of See You At The Top by Zig Ziglar. Or, how about, A) Shelling out thirty bucks to take in the latest and greatest chainsaw massacre movie at the theater. Or, B) listening to the latest Entrepreneurs On Fire podcast by John Lee Dumas?
Yeah, many find great entertainment in Choice A. But in reality, you and I both know, Choice B is the wiser decision. What are our takeaways for Choice A? They are mind-numbing time-sucks. Choice B has the ability to teach us something that will enable us to improve our life/income/knowledge/etc.
Be careful when you do things that just kill time. Time has no resurrection. It is our most important asset.
There are many places we can go for excellent, positive input. Books, Audible, podcasts, Youtube, seminars, conferences, etc.
Income School, Legendary Marketer and the Rock It! Zone are three places that have the potential to fill your mind with high-quality, positive content for many, many hours on end. Excellent, solid content that gives you the ability to harness the power of Advance Dynamix.
And with some of the other choices we spoke about earlier, they are just the time-suck. They carry no true benefit for you. Garbage in, garbage out. Gold in, gold out. Choose wisely. The choice is totally yours.
Carlos Hernandez is the founder of Beauty & Beast Cuisine and the author of Built From Nothing: How I Built a Multi-Million Dollar Business from the Ground Up.
Heroin had grabbed Carlos by the throat and destroyed his entire life. Before he was able to beat it, he was shooting up a couple of dozen times a day just to feel normal.
Then, one day, just a few words he heard another heroin addict say, grabbed his attention and made him realize how badly he needed to change his life.
Carlos’ new book is an excellent read and his story is extremely inspirational. He could have easily just said, “I’m a heroin addict and a born loser” and continued to fire poison into his veins until he went to prison or even worse yet, died. But, he didn’t. He changed his course and created a mullt-million dollar empire.
Grant Sabatier is a self-made millionaire blogger you have probably never heard of. At age 25, Grant was deep in credit card debt and he had a little over two bucks to his name. He was living in his parents basement. You know, the ol’ cliche’ of a “born loser.” In your mid-20’s and living in your parents basement.
Then, he began writing the Millenial Money Blog. The rest, as they say, is history. Five years of hard work and total dedication changed life as he knew it. He could have just decided he was a born loser and called it quits. But, he didn’t. No, he made a conscious decision to change his course and create his new self.
Leonardo Del Vecchio
Leonardo Del Vecchio started life in a horrible manner. He was tossed into an orphanage by his widowed and extremely poor mother. He could have easily decided he was a born loser and just gave up on life. But, he didn’t.
As soon as Leonardo was old enough to earn a living for himself, he became a factory worker, manufacturing molds for auto parts and eyeglass frames. At the ripe old age of twenty-three, he opened his own molding shop. That shop later became Luxottica.
Today, his company manufactures eyeglass frames such as Ray-Ban and Oakley. Today, he has a net-worth of over $16 billion dollars. I bet he’s glad he didn’t decide he was a born loser.
Tai Lopez had $47 bucks to his name, no car, no job and was surfing couches for a place to crash. He could have easily relegated himself to the status of “born loser” and just gave up on life.
Instead, he buckled down and worked extremely hard. Today, Tai Lopez is worth over $60 million dollars.
At one point, Robert and Kim Kiyosaki were broke, homeless and living in their car. Talk about a brow beater. They could have easily decided they were born losers. But, they didn’t. Today, they have a net worth of $80 million dollars.
At age 25, Grant Cardone was flat broke and a drug addict. He could have stopped right there, decided he was born to lose and gave up on life.
Nope, that ain’t how Grant rolls! Today, he earns more in one day than what he used to make in an entire year. He owns four different companies and is just south of being a billionaire.
Grant told CNBC, “I’m wealthy because I have courage, creativity and commitment. If a person has those three things, there’s no way you’re ever going to be broke. You’re never going to have a problem with money.”
I was born to a single mother who supported us by tending bar in a local watering hole back in the mid-60’s. I could have easily been an abortion statstic back then. I’m sure glad mom didn’t go that route.
We lived in a tiny 600 sq. ft. house. My clothes came from thrift stores and garage sales. For Christmas, we gave our extended family members homemade trinkets that we had constructed from tree bark and dried flowers because we were too poor to buy them presents from the store.
I could have easily decided I was a born loser and just rolled with that. But I didn’t. I haven’t amassed the multi-million dollar fortunes some of the others we’ve talked about here have but what I have accomplished sure ain’t anything to sneeze at either.
The Bottom Line
Born losers are born losers because they choose to be. Winners are winners because they choose to be. Go get your courage, creativity and commitment on and make it happen! It’s YOUR life. Go live it to the fullest and, don’t let ANYONE tell you that you can’t!